Who taught you to ride a bike?
Do you remember how different riding a bike was than riding your trike? With a tricycle, you really had to pedal hard to get over bumpy terrain, but with a bicycle you could almost glide over it. As soon as you mastered the skills of riding, you were given the joy of riding fast and easy. Remember feeling like you were flying? To go faster than you could run was addictive and you had the same joy a dog has with his head out the window of a Subaru, fur smashed back by the wind. This photo of my granddaughter, Brooklyn, calls up that feeling.
But what does it have to do with getting organized? Well, wouldn’t you say that every, able-bodied child can learn to ride a bike? Do you remember your pre-biker days? Remember how impossible it looked? Remember thinking, ‘I can’t do that.’? And then what happened? You learned! You could do it. When you were learning, there were basic skills you had to acquire in order to stay on the bike when your teacher let go.
- Enough speed
- Keep eyes forward
- Use your balance
- Keep pedaling
If you left any one of those basics out, you crashed.
The basics for getting organized are the same and if you leave any one of them out, you’ll crash (which we’ll do until we’re in the habit of using all four skills). When anyone says, “I’m fluttering,” what’s happened is they’ve left out one of the steps.
- Enough speed (timer)
- Keep eyes forward (calendar, watch)
- Use your balance (balance work, recreation and rest)
- Keep pedaling (decluttering)
Wouldn’t you say you know all about these basics? Now if you fail to use any one of them (just like you need the basic skills to ride a bike), you’re going to find yourself in a mess. But you know the saying, “It’s just like riding a bike,” implying once you learn, you never forget. So which basic skill or tool have you been leaving out? Once you nail that, it’s just a matter of putting more focus on using it and just like riding a bike; you’ll be back on top of things.
Commitment and Desire
But there’s more. When you were young, you looked at riding your bike as something fun to do, because the rewards for pleasure were great. You also had the commitment to learn, because you saw all the other kids having fun and there you were on your little, red trike, with a stupid, silver bell,silenced by rust.
To get organized, you have to have the commitment to change your comfortable routine, in order to enjoy the fruits of that change. You can see the other “kids” with clean and neat homes and you know you would love that. You are a social person and you want to be comfortable when you have friends and family over. You’ll also discover staying organized is more comfortable than the routine that’s gotten you in a mess.
I’m working with a delightful woman who has a goal of having her home organized and clean so she can have her new granddaughter in her home (the daughter won’t let her babysit there until that happens). This woman has the desire to be able to babysit her granddaughter in her own home and she totally understands why her daughter won’t allow that until things change in her home.
Get the Right Reason
This brings up one more thought; get the right reason to get organized and make it juicy enough to stick. When I got organized my reason was to have more free time to play. In 40 years of being organized my playtime has allowed me to do what I love to the degree that even my work (writing) is play!
So get the right reason and start using the skills you haven’t been using and get out of the mess. Let me be your “teacher holding the seat of your bicycle” until you get strong on your own. My book “The Joy of Being Disorganized” will have you on your way with the right reasons and the desire to get organized just enough to please you. Just tap on the cover to learn more.
Love,

PS Please share with your sister bikers.



Judith
Good morning, Pam. Love this metaphor! Thanks for the reminder. j
Pam Young
Writing it made me want to ride my bike, but since I don't have one, I settled for just the thought of doing it.
Ruth
Great post, I just loved that description - the feeling of cycling being like the dog with its head out the car window! I have several of your books and find them so enjoyable, you have a wonderful way with words and a great sense of humour, thank you!
Pam Young
Writing keeps me young!
Sharon
This was the best! It is perhaps unfortunate that I was never much good at bike riding. No good memories there. Instead I will think of when I went back to high-school as an adult. Single parent, working 2 jobs, and totally lost at the start. Didn't remember the difference between an adverb and an adjective.
A couple of weeks in I wanted to throw the books off the bridge I walked across on the way home. I was tired, discouraged and frustrated. Instead I hung in there. I kept going and gave myself some time to adjust.
About six weeks in, things started to click and I ended the year with an award for highest mark in graduating class.
I will look at de-cluttering, organizing, and developing a routine the same way. While I have enjoyed retirement and now schedule, it has created havoc in my life. No set meal-times. bed-times or anything.
I may resist the idea of structure, but like my education, I know I need to have it in order to have the other things I desire in life. So I will give it my best shot.
There will be times when I rebel and want to throw in the towel, but I will keep working at it.
Before I jump in the deep end, I will start with getting a routine in place, but one with enough flexibility to allow this flower-child of yore to feel free. Blocks of time, rather than strict times. Days for certain tasks, but able to double up without pressure if life intervenes.
Wish me luck, and keep writing. Your humor and outlook on life is an encouragement and a ray of sunshine in the dark times. Thank you for brightening my day.
Pam Young
Well Sharon, you have learned so much about yourself and I love your attitude! I also am impressed with your strategy. You've got it!